If you are like most people you have started a diet for the summer. Every year, people start and quit their diet before seeing their desired results. This article is going to help you understand why your diet's not working and you're not losing fat.
As someone who has lost weight and gained weight consistently, through trial and error, and through reading different materials on diet and nutrition, I have been able to learn how to lose fat. These are the 10 reasons why your diet isn't working.
1: You're diet has no structure
When you start a diet you need to have a plan. Once you pick a plan, you need to make sure you are executing it to the best of your ability. This means, if the diet says 6 oz of chicken breasts, that's what you need to eat not 10 oz. You need to learn what proper portion control and food measurements are. After that you need to understand calories. If you're on a keto low carb diet, you need to stick to high protein and moderate fat. If you're on low fat, high protein, moderate carb, you need to stick with that. The whole point is to execute the diet.
You need to stick to it and see it through the end. If you're diet's not working it's because you have no structure.
2: You're starving yourself
While it's true that you need to be in a caloric deficit to lose body fat. That doesn't mean that you need to starve. When you're in a deficit, I recommend keeping it at 300 calories under maintenance. You might be wondering, well how do I do that? Multiply bodyweight x 15. After that you subtract 300. That's a proven way to lose body fat. I would recommend eating as much protein and good fats as possible. Fats are great for hormone production. They also promote satiety, which means you'll feel full while dieting. Remember, this doesn't mean eat 1,000 calories per day. Eating 1,000 calories means you will start to tap into to your hard earned muscle. During a diet you want to keep every ounce of muscle on your body. Or at least as much as possible.
3: You yo-yo diet
These people are the best. That's sarcasm, they are the people that bulk one week, and cut the next. When you start to diet you need to stick to it for 90 days. I recommend dieting for a full 90 days. That's the most effective way to go. You can try longer if you have to, but you won't know if a diet is working or not if you don't stick to it. Eating correctly for two weeks, won't change 10 years of bad eating. This means you need to be consistent. Stay on your diet, meaning in a calorie deficit, for a minimum of 90 days. Program your cheat meals, and don't eat them when they're not on the schedule.
4: You pick diets you can't stick to
When you start dieting you need to be 100% confident in the diet you picked. You need to believe that you can stick to the diet. If you believe it you will achieve it. It's cliche, it's corny, and it's true. When you believe you can stick to the diet you will. Unfortunately, most people overestimate the amount of discipline and will power they have. If you love eating red meat and eggs, why would you start eating tilapia and egg whites? Sounds silly right? Yet, I see way too many people doing this. This is a foolish mistake. Pick the diet you will stick to, that's the best one.
5: You're over training
Yes guys, contrary to popular belief, it's very possible to over train. Most overly ambitious people will try to work out every single day when they are dieting. This is simply unnecessary. You need to use the minimum effective dose here. What do I mean by that? I mean that you need to work out as little as possible to create the desired result. This means that you need to be efficient and train hard. You won't have as much time for talking and shooting the shit with your buddies. You need to be on a mission and get out of the gym in less than 1 hour.
If you keep your workouts shorter than 1 hour while you're dieting it'll be easier to not over train. Also, your workouts are longer than 1 hour it can have a negative effect on testosterone production.
6: You're eating too much
Just like starving yourself, eating too much is also hurting you. You need to change your mindset, food is not a reward, food is just fuel. You need to feed the machine that is your body. Don't feed that weak inner child inside. That weak inner child is holding you back. The simple way to know if you're eating too much is if you're feeling hungry. If you don't feel hungry during a diet, you're eating too much. That's a simple way to see if you're eating too much. You should be losing 1-2 lbs per week. Any more than that will mean you're losing water and muscle too.
7: You have no discipline
If you lack discipline and mental fortitude, you'll never be in shape. That's a sad reality. Luckily discipline can be developed. It will suck and you will suffer but you will get the prize of a new attractive physique. You need to remember that you won't be motivated every day. Any one can do something when they feel like doing it. You need to learn to diet whether you feel like it or not. That's what discipline is.
8: You make excuses
When you start a diet, you can have results, or you can have excuses, but you can't have both. You're going to have to suffer and just barrel through the diet.
9: You are too restrictive
If you stop eating certain foods that you like cold turkey, you will fail at dieting. Now, this is within reason. I assume you're not counting ice cream and cookies as foods you like. I'm talking about, cutting out red meat when you love beef. If you love beef, keep it in your diet. Very simple and to the point.
10: You think it'll happen overnight
No diet will work over night, I would say that you need a minimum of 60 days to see real changes. If you diet and train correctly, you will be able to see results in that time period. That's how long it will take to make lasting changes.
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Wednesday, March 28, 2018
Wednesday, March 21, 2018
How to Stop Being Skinny and Weak
When you started training in the gym, I'm sure your goal wasn't to be 165 lbs and ripped. If it was, my god you're a loser. The whole purpose of training in the gym, at least for me was to be huge and freakishly strong. You see if you're a 135 lb weakling, you'll never develop the strength necessary to build muscle. To build muscle you need to lift heavy weights for a good amount of reps. This means when you can squat 315 for 20-25 reps, you'll have some big quads and a nice ass.
Truth be told, my favorite body part to train is my ass. Fellas, every girl I have been with has liked the way my ass looks. This website isn't about seduction, but girls love a thick masculine ass. Coming in close second are my legs. I always new from playing football and baseball that these muscle groups were the foundation. When you decide you want to get bigger and stronger, you will do squats, dead-lifts, bent over rows, and maybe power cleans, all of these muscles either recruit the glutes directly or act as stabilizers.
If you have the courage and the commitment to learn how to power clean, you can make big changes in your strength and size. Keep your mind on the barbell exercises that give you the greatest return on investment. You see, I see way too many skinny guys in the gym, that are worried about drop sets, mind muscle connection, and other bs.
This is what keeps the skinny guys skinny. Those big bodybuilders who are incorporating this training, are on massive amounts of drugs, another crucial detail is that these bodybuilders got big through lifting heavy weights and eating as much protein as they can handle. Yes, there are genetic elites out there, Paul Dillet for example can grow from mowing lawns.
None of you skinny guys out there have Paul Dillet's genetics he did play in the NFL. Now, you may not be in the NFL, but if you follow this guide and do exactly what I say, I guarantee results. Luckily for the skinny scrawny punks out there, I can guide and steer you in the right direction.
Do 3 barbell exercises for every 1 isolation exercise.
If these skinny clowns would actually focus on improving their barbell lifts, they'd be able to actually grow and get stronger. The solution is to do 3 barbell exercises for every 1 isolation exercise.
Here's an example
Legs:
Low bar squat: 1 x 8, 1 x 20
Romanian dead-lift: 2 x 20
Barbell lunges: 2 x 20 reps per leg
Lying hamstring curls: 2 x 20 reps
If you train that way as a skinny guy you will grow at a faster pace. That heavy set of 8 on the squat, will help you grow faster, than skipping it. Don't skip the 20 rep set either. 20 rep squats are proven mass builders. The only thing I left out was calves. If your calves are lagging do a few sets of seated calf raises, again I recommend 20 reps, going slow, and using zero momentum.
I see skinny guys constantly using momentum to get the weight up. This is fine on the last 2-3 reps, but it can lead to disaster if you do it, every rep, every set. Control the weight as much as possible, muscle and strength respond to controlling the weight. That is if you want to build muscle. If you just want to lift as much weight as possible just start power lifting. Power lifting is fun, and I used to power lift.
Some skinny guys would benefit immensely from power lifting training. That doesn't mean all skinny guys will benefit from it. I find the sweet spot for growth to be in the 6-8 rep range. For legs I'd say it's between 15-25. Quads have a lot of slow twitch muscle fibers, which is why they react well to higher rep training.
Next, what you skinny guys need to do is get your diet in check. Learn to eat. It sounds simplistic, and yet, I see guys who go from 150 lbs to 140 just because they suck at eating. Eating food isn't hard, I promise guys. I was 160 at one point. I ate everything in sight and got up to 185 lbs.
That's not because I'm better than anyone either. I just wanted to be bigger, and I made myself bigger, nothing out of the ordinary here. The problem is that most people want me to tell them that pre-workout of what the perfect steroid cycle is. None of that stuff matters if you can't execute the x's and o's of bodybuilding. This is what people fail to realize. I can't make your body grow. I can make you stronger, and I can help with diet, it's ultimately up to the individual to see his results to the end. If you're less than 200 lbs, bulk. Absolutely, bulk and eat to grow.
That was one of my biggest mistakes, I should have consistently bulked, for 2 years. People seem to think that they can bulk for 6 weeks and cut for 3. That doesn't work, that's called yo-yo dieting. Yo-yo dieters never make gains. Bulk for a long time and then slowly take the fat off with diet. If your diet is trash you will be too. You need to take your nutrition seriously and don't let anything get in your way. When you start eating properly and training with enough intensity, you'll see changes in your physique, I promise. The problem is when people look for the shortcuts or miracle drugs.
This website doesn't promote that and it never will. I want guys and girls to master diet and training. You should want to eat properly. If you're in a bulking/lean mass phase, sure, it's okay to eat a snickers here and there. Just keep junk food to a minimum, and stay focused on the body you want in the future. This is something everyone seems to struggle with. When I tell people that they need to eat big, they think I mean taco bell xxl everything. While you might gain weight, trust me you will, the excess fat accumulation isn't worth it.
How bad do you want to change your physique? Most of the time it's will, and it's mental. I can't teach you the will to win, and the will to power. Read Nieztche if you don't know what I'm talking about. I can teach you x's and o's, I can't teach will. Your will must come from within. The will to power is everything. Seriously, read Nieztche.
You need to learn to associate pleasure with success, and massive amounts of pain with failure. Unfortunately, skinny guys do this is reverse. They associate massive amounts of pain with eating to grow, and therefore they stay skinny. Most of the time they get in their own way. Just remove the mental door and succeed. Don't focus on the struggle, focus on the success. This is what will help you improve your physique. Bodybuilding, and strength building is much more mental than it is physical.
Now, if you're a scrawny 135 don't expect to squat 600+ because you believe in yourself. You still need to stay in touch with reality. When you're training, there shouldn't be any doubt that you're going to lift the target number of reps, or weight. I don't program 1 rep maxes. If you want to know your 1 rm so bad, go do a power lifting meet. Seriously, if you're that obsessed with it, go do a power lifting meet.
I'm here to teach you to build strength, not test it. Even elite power lifters rarely if ever max out. They know the difference between building and testing your strength. You too, need to learn the difference. They've gotten to their level for a reason. Ed Coan, the greatest power lifter of all time even said that he never missed a lift in training. There is no reason you should ever miss a lift. Too many people fall into the trap of showing people in the gym what they can do.
https://youtu.be/ktDvrxWJzi0
Do the opposite
Focus on yourself, and the lifts you want to improve. Don't worry about lifter a or lifter b. Lift with control and focus on technical cues. On squats, think knees out, butt back and down, core tight. On dead-lifts, think chest up, press floor away from you. These simple cues will keep you focused and will help you lift safer.
A safe lifter, will be training for a long time. I hate using the word safety, because usually the people who are obsessed with safety are pussies. However, to make gains, you need to train as safe as possible in order to keep increasing total weekly, and monthly training volume. Be as safe as possible, while being as intense as possible, if that makes any sense.
Also skinny guys need to focus the bulk of their energy on training their legs and back. Most people just want to train the show muscles. This is okay, the problem is that it can lead to long term injury, since you will develop muscle imbalances. You could however choose not to listen to me, that is also an option. If you want the physique to show for it, you will need to develop the back and legs to round out your whole body.
Another reason, is because that will help you add raw weight and size. Your legs and back muscles weigh a lot more than chest, shoulders, and arms.
Get good at these 6 exercises and watch your physique transform.
Flat bench
Low bar squat
Bent over row
Dead-lift
Weighted chin up
Power clean
If you master these 6 exercises and consistently get stronger in the 6-20 rep range you'll be a god in the gym. You'll be a beastly badass that makes panties wet and makes other men envy you. Maybe not, but I have seen it happen before.
Share this article with every one.
Thank you for reading.
Stop being a skinny weakling and apply what I wrote in the article.
Truth be told, my favorite body part to train is my ass. Fellas, every girl I have been with has liked the way my ass looks. This website isn't about seduction, but girls love a thick masculine ass. Coming in close second are my legs. I always new from playing football and baseball that these muscle groups were the foundation. When you decide you want to get bigger and stronger, you will do squats, dead-lifts, bent over rows, and maybe power cleans, all of these muscles either recruit the glutes directly or act as stabilizers.
If you have the courage and the commitment to learn how to power clean, you can make big changes in your strength and size. Keep your mind on the barbell exercises that give you the greatest return on investment. You see, I see way too many skinny guys in the gym, that are worried about drop sets, mind muscle connection, and other bs.
This is what keeps the skinny guys skinny. Those big bodybuilders who are incorporating this training, are on massive amounts of drugs, another crucial detail is that these bodybuilders got big through lifting heavy weights and eating as much protein as they can handle. Yes, there are genetic elites out there, Paul Dillet for example can grow from mowing lawns.
None of you skinny guys out there have Paul Dillet's genetics he did play in the NFL. Now, you may not be in the NFL, but if you follow this guide and do exactly what I say, I guarantee results. Luckily for the skinny scrawny punks out there, I can guide and steer you in the right direction.
Do 3 barbell exercises for every 1 isolation exercise.
If these skinny clowns would actually focus on improving their barbell lifts, they'd be able to actually grow and get stronger. The solution is to do 3 barbell exercises for every 1 isolation exercise.
Here's an example
Legs:
Low bar squat: 1 x 8, 1 x 20
Romanian dead-lift: 2 x 20
Barbell lunges: 2 x 20 reps per leg
Lying hamstring curls: 2 x 20 reps
If you train that way as a skinny guy you will grow at a faster pace. That heavy set of 8 on the squat, will help you grow faster, than skipping it. Don't skip the 20 rep set either. 20 rep squats are proven mass builders. The only thing I left out was calves. If your calves are lagging do a few sets of seated calf raises, again I recommend 20 reps, going slow, and using zero momentum.
I see skinny guys constantly using momentum to get the weight up. This is fine on the last 2-3 reps, but it can lead to disaster if you do it, every rep, every set. Control the weight as much as possible, muscle and strength respond to controlling the weight. That is if you want to build muscle. If you just want to lift as much weight as possible just start power lifting. Power lifting is fun, and I used to power lift.
Some skinny guys would benefit immensely from power lifting training. That doesn't mean all skinny guys will benefit from it. I find the sweet spot for growth to be in the 6-8 rep range. For legs I'd say it's between 15-25. Quads have a lot of slow twitch muscle fibers, which is why they react well to higher rep training.
Next, what you skinny guys need to do is get your diet in check. Learn to eat. It sounds simplistic, and yet, I see guys who go from 150 lbs to 140 just because they suck at eating. Eating food isn't hard, I promise guys. I was 160 at one point. I ate everything in sight and got up to 185 lbs.
That's not because I'm better than anyone either. I just wanted to be bigger, and I made myself bigger, nothing out of the ordinary here. The problem is that most people want me to tell them that pre-workout of what the perfect steroid cycle is. None of that stuff matters if you can't execute the x's and o's of bodybuilding. This is what people fail to realize. I can't make your body grow. I can make you stronger, and I can help with diet, it's ultimately up to the individual to see his results to the end. If you're less than 200 lbs, bulk. Absolutely, bulk and eat to grow.
That was one of my biggest mistakes, I should have consistently bulked, for 2 years. People seem to think that they can bulk for 6 weeks and cut for 3. That doesn't work, that's called yo-yo dieting. Yo-yo dieters never make gains. Bulk for a long time and then slowly take the fat off with diet. If your diet is trash you will be too. You need to take your nutrition seriously and don't let anything get in your way. When you start eating properly and training with enough intensity, you'll see changes in your physique, I promise. The problem is when people look for the shortcuts or miracle drugs.
This website doesn't promote that and it never will. I want guys and girls to master diet and training. You should want to eat properly. If you're in a bulking/lean mass phase, sure, it's okay to eat a snickers here and there. Just keep junk food to a minimum, and stay focused on the body you want in the future. This is something everyone seems to struggle with. When I tell people that they need to eat big, they think I mean taco bell xxl everything. While you might gain weight, trust me you will, the excess fat accumulation isn't worth it.
How bad do you want to change your physique? Most of the time it's will, and it's mental. I can't teach you the will to win, and the will to power. Read Nieztche if you don't know what I'm talking about. I can teach you x's and o's, I can't teach will. Your will must come from within. The will to power is everything. Seriously, read Nieztche.
You need to learn to associate pleasure with success, and massive amounts of pain with failure. Unfortunately, skinny guys do this is reverse. They associate massive amounts of pain with eating to grow, and therefore they stay skinny. Most of the time they get in their own way. Just remove the mental door and succeed. Don't focus on the struggle, focus on the success. This is what will help you improve your physique. Bodybuilding, and strength building is much more mental than it is physical.
Now, if you're a scrawny 135 don't expect to squat 600+ because you believe in yourself. You still need to stay in touch with reality. When you're training, there shouldn't be any doubt that you're going to lift the target number of reps, or weight. I don't program 1 rep maxes. If you want to know your 1 rm so bad, go do a power lifting meet. Seriously, if you're that obsessed with it, go do a power lifting meet.
I'm here to teach you to build strength, not test it. Even elite power lifters rarely if ever max out. They know the difference between building and testing your strength. You too, need to learn the difference. They've gotten to their level for a reason. Ed Coan, the greatest power lifter of all time even said that he never missed a lift in training. There is no reason you should ever miss a lift. Too many people fall into the trap of showing people in the gym what they can do.
https://youtu.be/ktDvrxWJzi0
Do the opposite
Focus on yourself, and the lifts you want to improve. Don't worry about lifter a or lifter b. Lift with control and focus on technical cues. On squats, think knees out, butt back and down, core tight. On dead-lifts, think chest up, press floor away from you. These simple cues will keep you focused and will help you lift safer.
A safe lifter, will be training for a long time. I hate using the word safety, because usually the people who are obsessed with safety are pussies. However, to make gains, you need to train as safe as possible in order to keep increasing total weekly, and monthly training volume. Be as safe as possible, while being as intense as possible, if that makes any sense.
Also skinny guys need to focus the bulk of their energy on training their legs and back. Most people just want to train the show muscles. This is okay, the problem is that it can lead to long term injury, since you will develop muscle imbalances. You could however choose not to listen to me, that is also an option. If you want the physique to show for it, you will need to develop the back and legs to round out your whole body.
Another reason, is because that will help you add raw weight and size. Your legs and back muscles weigh a lot more than chest, shoulders, and arms.
Get good at these 6 exercises and watch your physique transform.
Flat bench
Low bar squat
Bent over row
Dead-lift
Weighted chin up
Power clean
If you master these 6 exercises and consistently get stronger in the 6-20 rep range you'll be a god in the gym. You'll be a beastly badass that makes panties wet and makes other men envy you. Maybe not, but I have seen it happen before.
Share this article with every one.
Thank you for reading.
Stop being a skinny weakling and apply what I wrote in the article.
Friday, March 2, 2018
Why Having a Chip on Your Shoulder is Ruining Your Life
My whole life growing up, I would watch sports games and listen to the commentators talk about, how this player x had a huge chip on his shoulder coming out of college. I would always wonder why, then they would go on to describe what the athlete went through, or how far he dropped in the draft. The biggest mistake was thinking that this would somehow make me better by having a chip on my shoulder.
I then researched the term, and looked up the athletes, who claimed that they had a massive chip on their shoulder. What I discovered next was laughable. These athletes let someone else's opinion, affect their whole personality and character. This chip on their shoulder did nothing but give the other person power over them.
When you have a chip on your shoulder, it doesn't make you tough, or edgy. It makes you an insecure punk, who cares way too much what other people think about them. I even remember a lot of the quotes. "I'm gonna show them, I should have been drafted in the first round."
"I'll show them they never should have traded me."
When you think this way, you are living your life for other people. That's the first mistake of having a chip on your shoulder. You're living your life for other people, and you're making yourself weaker and more insecure by the day. This is what people fail to realize.
The I'll show you mindset
People that embody and carry out this mindset are deeply insecure. They are so desperate for approval and recognition that they'll go through anything to prove it to you. The problem with this is the payoff. What do you get out of showing someone else? They don't care!! Most of the time, they say things like you can't do it to tease you. They don't care if you actually do.
I remember one time, I told a guy he couldn't squat 225, when he actually did, he asked me if I saw it. Obviously I didn't see it, you see I didn't care about the other guys workout at all. In fact, his workout meant nothing to me. When he offered to show me his 225 squat, I told him that I wasn't interested and didn't care.
He spent his whole workout thinking about me telling him he couldn't squat 225. He was demoralized when I told him I didn't care. He squatted 225 just to prove it to me. Why not prove it to himself?
He was more concerned with my comment, than his own workout.
That says a lot about his lack of drive and character. He was more driven to prove me wrong, than he was to make progress. That's the issue with trying to prove people wrong. What if they don't care?
There lies the problem, he busted his ass to squat 225 all for someone, in this case me, who doesn't care about him at all. When you focus on what you're doing, that's when you'll make the most gains. Focusing on other people, will keep you weak mentally, and physically. You can only be the best you.
It doesn't matter if someone thinks you can't do something, all that matters is what you think. Stay focused on what you want to do and do it. Don't let any distracting thoughts get in the way.
When you carry a chip on your shoulder, your purpose is to prove people wrong, that means you are living for other people instead of living for yourself. If you wish to live that way fine, what I'll never understand is why people think it is helping them. Learn to live for yourself, I'll admit that I've been called names I didn't agree with, cocky, egotistical, self-serving, prima donna, especially when I was an athlete growing up.
Now, I never went out of my way to prove those people wrong. I allowed them to have their own opinion. If you're an American, you understand that we have free speech and so do other people. They have a right to think you suck, and you have a right to not care what they have to say.
IDGAF
Honestly, if you want to be a success you need to learn to let go of other people. That means, that you need to stop caring about what they're doing and about what your opinion of them is. Stay 100% focused on yourself. If your girlfriend dumps you, get a new one. If you hate your training partner get a new one. Yes, this is definitely common sense, which unfortunately isn't so common anymore.
It's simple advice, yet most people would rather wallow in self-pity, or show their girlfriend or boyfriend that they made a mistake. My question, is why do you want them to admit that? It's because you still care about them. The new approach is to train yourself not to care. I've been dumped before, I accepted reality, I never tried to show my ex, or any other woman that they made a big mistake.
I just moved on, I focused forward. I put my attention on the present day and how I can live it to the best of my ability. Focus on today, that's all you can do. Sure you can daydream about the future, yet, that doesn't mean you can forget about today. A lot of people struggle with this. Stop caring, who cares about tomorrow. Don't check what your ex or current girlfriend or significant other is doing on social media, live your life.
The key to not caring is to just live your life. Again, it sounds overly simplistic, sometimes that's what you and I need. Keep your life simple. If you want to build muscle mass, focus on big barbell lifts, eat 2 grams per pound of bodyweight in protein and stay in a calorie surplus. Nothing revolutionary. You don't have to reinvent the wheel to be a success.
Thank you for reading.
Share this article with everyone, you might know someone that needs it.
I then researched the term, and looked up the athletes, who claimed that they had a massive chip on their shoulder. What I discovered next was laughable. These athletes let someone else's opinion, affect their whole personality and character. This chip on their shoulder did nothing but give the other person power over them.
When you have a chip on your shoulder, it doesn't make you tough, or edgy. It makes you an insecure punk, who cares way too much what other people think about them. I even remember a lot of the quotes. "I'm gonna show them, I should have been drafted in the first round."
"I'll show them they never should have traded me."
When you think this way, you are living your life for other people. That's the first mistake of having a chip on your shoulder. You're living your life for other people, and you're making yourself weaker and more insecure by the day. This is what people fail to realize.
The I'll show you mindset
People that embody and carry out this mindset are deeply insecure. They are so desperate for approval and recognition that they'll go through anything to prove it to you. The problem with this is the payoff. What do you get out of showing someone else? They don't care!! Most of the time, they say things like you can't do it to tease you. They don't care if you actually do.
I remember one time, I told a guy he couldn't squat 225, when he actually did, he asked me if I saw it. Obviously I didn't see it, you see I didn't care about the other guys workout at all. In fact, his workout meant nothing to me. When he offered to show me his 225 squat, I told him that I wasn't interested and didn't care.
He spent his whole workout thinking about me telling him he couldn't squat 225. He was demoralized when I told him I didn't care. He squatted 225 just to prove it to me. Why not prove it to himself?
He was more concerned with my comment, than his own workout.
That says a lot about his lack of drive and character. He was more driven to prove me wrong, than he was to make progress. That's the issue with trying to prove people wrong. What if they don't care?
There lies the problem, he busted his ass to squat 225 all for someone, in this case me, who doesn't care about him at all. When you focus on what you're doing, that's when you'll make the most gains. Focusing on other people, will keep you weak mentally, and physically. You can only be the best you.
It doesn't matter if someone thinks you can't do something, all that matters is what you think. Stay focused on what you want to do and do it. Don't let any distracting thoughts get in the way.
When you carry a chip on your shoulder, your purpose is to prove people wrong, that means you are living for other people instead of living for yourself. If you wish to live that way fine, what I'll never understand is why people think it is helping them. Learn to live for yourself, I'll admit that I've been called names I didn't agree with, cocky, egotistical, self-serving, prima donna, especially when I was an athlete growing up.
Now, I never went out of my way to prove those people wrong. I allowed them to have their own opinion. If you're an American, you understand that we have free speech and so do other people. They have a right to think you suck, and you have a right to not care what they have to say.
IDGAF
Honestly, if you want to be a success you need to learn to let go of other people. That means, that you need to stop caring about what they're doing and about what your opinion of them is. Stay 100% focused on yourself. If your girlfriend dumps you, get a new one. If you hate your training partner get a new one. Yes, this is definitely common sense, which unfortunately isn't so common anymore.
It's simple advice, yet most people would rather wallow in self-pity, or show their girlfriend or boyfriend that they made a mistake. My question, is why do you want them to admit that? It's because you still care about them. The new approach is to train yourself not to care. I've been dumped before, I accepted reality, I never tried to show my ex, or any other woman that they made a big mistake.
I just moved on, I focused forward. I put my attention on the present day and how I can live it to the best of my ability. Focus on today, that's all you can do. Sure you can daydream about the future, yet, that doesn't mean you can forget about today. A lot of people struggle with this. Stop caring, who cares about tomorrow. Don't check what your ex or current girlfriend or significant other is doing on social media, live your life.
The key to not caring is to just live your life. Again, it sounds overly simplistic, sometimes that's what you and I need. Keep your life simple. If you want to build muscle mass, focus on big barbell lifts, eat 2 grams per pound of bodyweight in protein and stay in a calorie surplus. Nothing revolutionary. You don't have to reinvent the wheel to be a success.
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